2026-05-26
Why my kid won't even try — nobody shoots at a hoop bolted to the roof
When your kid won't even try, it's often not about skill — he's decided it's out of reach, like a hoop bolted to a roof. On self-efficacy, lowering the rim instead of cheering louder, and self-doubt as a parent.
2026-05-18
Letting kids fail: I was grabbing his failures before he could feel them
7:14 AM. Backpack on, homework still on the counter. Almost said 'grab it' — caught myself. Letting kids fail on purpose — productive failure (Kapur 2008) — and the 3-second pause we're trying at home.
2026-05-11
My kid forgets to even look at the list — working memory and remembering to remember
My kid forgets to even look at the to-do list I wrote for him. A note on workplace schedulers, presupposition questions, and working memory research — and what's actually going on with kid memory.
2026-05-08
My kid says "I did it" when he didn't — "did it" and "done" are different things
'Brush your teeth' — 'I did it' — 'you're literally just holding the toothbrush in your mouth.' The kid's 'I did it' and the parent's 'done' are different things. Same structure as a requirements-vs-implementation gap at work.